Gates of the Soul

Gates of the Soul

Last week the month of Elul began, the final month before the Jewish new year, and we are once again in the countdown to Rosh Hashanah (at least we rabbis are).  A passage from the Torah portion (Shoftim) caught my attention.  In the passage, God is instructing the Israelites for how they should govern when they enter the land of Israel:  “You shall appoint judges and magistrates at all your gates [Deuteronomy 16:18].”  One Chasidic commentator, the Itturei Torah, explains that the gates here do not only refer to the gates of the city, but also the gates of the soul.  There are 7 windows to the soul:  2 ears, 2 eyes, 2 nostrils and 1 mouth.  Everything that passes into our consciousness must first pass through these gates.  This teaching encourages us to be mindful about how we perceive/judge the external world and internalize it.  The window or screen through which we filter our experiences is not blank, but a world in and of itself.  As we approach the High Holy Days, let us pay special mind to the gates of our souls — How open are they?  How judgmental?  How protective?

As we prepare ourselves for the Holy Days ahead, this wonderful resource, The Jewels of Elul, provides food for thought on each day of Elul.  It is a collection of writings and introspections from well-known and fascinating people, including President Obama, the Dalai Lama, Elie Wiesel and many others.

Another wonderful resource, provided by interfaithfamily.com, is this link to High Holy Day blessings, along with translations, transliterations and even sound.

May this time be filled with introspection, thoughtful conversation, healing and repair, wonderful celebrations and expressions of gratitude.  As the year of 5771 draws to a close, The Open Tent thanks you for your support in our mission of Jewish engagement.  We look forward to sharing a new year of 5772 with our Open Tent friends, near and far.  May it be a year of blessings, renewal, growth and peace.

Considering Passover 2011

We are at the one-week countdown to Pesach. There are cabinets to be cleaned, matzah balls to be made and consideration to be given to our Seder this year. But more than the cleaning and cooking, I’m thinking about Mitrayim/Egypt. We all watched in awe this year as modern day Egyptians rose up against their Pharaoh to free themselves from his rule. Like the ancient Israelites, the modern day Egyptians ultimately had to be the agents of their own freedom.

While we, thankfully, live in a great democracy, there are many ways we are not free. As Pesach approaches, I’m thinking about ways in my life that I constrict my own freedom. The name Mitrayim means “narrow place”. It was the narrow birth canal through which the Israelites had to pass to be born into freedom. My yoga teacher, Rabbi Myriam Klotz, shed new light on this word for me. She pointed out that if we remove the center of the Hebrew word Mitzrayim, the “tzr” (which means narrow), we are left with the word “mayim”, which means water. Water is the clear, buoyant fluid that carries us, moves us and sustains us. Once we remove the narrow places from our lives, we are left with the liberating sensation of floating.

As we prepare for Pesach, let’s think about what’s confining and constraining us. What relationships are keeping us in a narrow place? Are we a prisoner to our iphone or blackberry? Are we staying where we are because it’s comfortable/safe or because it’s life affirming?

Moreover, if we parse the word “mayim” (water) further, we create the words “ma im?” – which translate as “what if?” Once we remove the narrow place from Mitzrayim, we are left with infinite possibilities….what if? This is the opportunity to reflect on the life we are leading and imagine the life we wish to lead. What if? What if anything was possible?

As we examine our homes for those morsels of hametz, let us examine our souls as well. Pesach affords us the chance to liberate ourselves from that which is holding us back and become champions of our own lives.

Pesach is known as Z’man Simchateynu – the Season of our Joy. May each of you rejoice in the infinite possibilities of being alive and find new ways to bring freedom to yourself and others this Passover.

“Indulgent” Jewish Mother vs. “Militant” Tiger Mother

So I’ve been following the back and forth discussions between Amy Chua, Yale Law Professor and self proclaimed Tiger mother, author of the new, highly explosive Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, and everyone who has responded to her book in the Wall Street Journal, the New York Times and NPR.  In fact, the initial article in the Wall Street Journal on January 8thgenerated more than 7,500 comments on the website, more than any other article in the history of WSJ.com.  So what’s everyone roaring about?!

It turns our parenting is a hot button issue of the first order!  Parenting is the toughest job a person will ever have, and yet most of us receive no formal training, no manuals, no mentors – other than our own parents.

In Chua’s book, she refers (occasionally) to her Jewish husband who was raised in a permissive Jewish home.  In a WSJ article entitled:  “In Defense of the Guilty, Ambivalent, Preoccupied Western Mom,” (1/15) Jewish mother, Ayelet Waldman, responds to Chua.  She admits to allowing everything that’s forbidden to Chua’s children:  sleepovers, playing on the computer, quitting music lessons, etc.

So who’s right?

Perhaps the thing which most offended people across America who read the article, was Chua’s self righteousness tone.  For most of us, parenting is a most humbling task.  Each of my 3 daughters has tested me, taught me, and humbled me.  Parenting is a series of best intentions, trial and error, triumphs and heartache.  It’s doing things we swore we would never do because we didn’t know any better when we swore it.

As for me, I still don’t have it right but I keep trying.  I bought Chua’s book to see if I could learn a thing or two.  If there’s anyone else out there who wants to talk about this, I’m hosting a discussion on Monday, March 7th at 7:30 p.m.  You can rsvp to share@theopentent.org and I’ll tell you where we’re meeting.  I think there’s a lot we can learn from each other — as long as we realize there’s no one “right” way.  Indulgent vs. Militant?  How about somewhere in the middle?

Tu B’Shvat 2011

Just yesterday, January 1st, we celebrated a new year, 2011.  In the Jewish calendar, we actually have 4 new years mentioned in the Mishnah.  One of them, the new year for the trees, otherwise known as Tu B’Shvat (Shevat 15), is celebrated this month on January 20th.  It’s customary to plant trees to celebrate and eat dried fruits and nuts, especially figs, dates, raisins and carobs.  In the Middle Ages, the mystics created a ritual around this called a Tu B’Shvat Seder in which the fruits and nuts took on symbolic meaning.  The purpose of the order in which special foods are eaten is to bring us closer to spiritual perfection.

The concept of how we eat bringing us closer to perfection, or making us holier, is very much part of our tradition.  The rules of keeping kosher are meant to teach us discipline and purity, two values which bring us closer to God.  As modern Jews, there are many ways to eat beyond the traditional rules of kashrut that may help to sanctify our lives.  This Tu B’Shvat, let’s consider how we eat.  How far does our food travel from farm to fork?  What pesticides were used?  How were the laborers who picked and processed the food treated?  Is the food nourishing and healthful?

Our organic and local Jewish food collective, Yaroq, is inviting new participants to the collective this January.  If you are interested, please contact Sharon@tbsmb.org for more information.  We are members of a national Jewish collective organized by Hazon.  To learn more about Jews and eating, visit hazon.org or the Jew and the Carrot. And if you’d like to get your hands dirty planting this Tu B’Shvat, try putting some parsley seeds into the ground.  They should be ready just in time for your Passover Seder!  Happy birthday to the trees!

Chanukah 2010: Celebrations, Rituals & More

This year Chanukah is so “early” that many of us are tagging it on to our Thanksgiving celebrations.  Families have gathered from far-flung places for the Thanksgiving break, so why not maximize our time together?  Bruce Feiler commented on this in The New York Times this past weekend.  His Rabbi gave him some pushback on the idea.  For me, it’s not a matter of either/or, but both.  My older girls and nephew are home from school for Thanksgiving break, so just a few days after we digest our turkey, we’ll be frying up the latkes, singing off tune, and swirling around to our favorite (mine anyway) Chanukah hora.  But on Wednesday, December 1st, after our older kids have returned to school, we’ll light the Chanukiah (menorah) once again to honor the official holiday.

So what if Chanukah isn’t one of the major Jewish festivals?  In our family, it’s filled with sizzling latkes, dazzling menorahs, fun gifts, chocolate gelt, family tzedakah, spinning dreidels and, of course, our famous Chanukah hora.  We have 8 nights to celebrate the miracle of religious freedom (and more for those of us who are beginning early).  Let’s make each one of them count.

The Open Tent begins a new tradition this year.  We will be lighting the Chanukiah, spinning dreidels, singing Chanukah songs and giving out yummy latkes on Lincoln Road this year.  Join us on Saturday evening, December 4th from 7:00 – 8:00 p.m. by the Colony Theater at Lenox and Lincoln to celebrate with community.

Do you have a favorite Chanukah ritual you’d like to share?  Please send in your traditions for us to share.

Yaroq & Sustainable Living

Last year, when we first started Yaroq, our bi-weekly deliveries of organic, locally grown produce, people would stop by the Temple Beth Sholom courtyard, see the gorgeous produce – the purple carrots(!) and pink grapefruits and deep green swiss chard –  and ask if they could buy some fruit or veggies.  But we didn’t start Yaroq because we wanted to be a grocery store, where someone could just stop by and get what they need.  We started Yaroq because we wanted to do much more than that.

Our first goal in forming an agricultural collective, is to restore the relationship Jews traditionally have had to the land.  Traditionally, almost every Jewish holiday has a strong connection to agriculture and the Earth.  The Talmud tells a story about a miracle man and mischief-maker named Honi.  One day Honi was walking down a road when he saw an old man planting a carob tree.  Honi asked the old man how many years it would take for the carob tree to bear fruit.  The man replied:  “About 70 years.”  “Silly old man,” Honi responded.  “Do you really think you’ll live another 70 years to see its fruit?!”  To which the old man replied, “I found the world planted with carob trees.  As my ancestors planted for me, so I will plant for my descendants.”

We want to restore a Jewish sense of responsibility toward stewardship of the Earth.  The production and distribution of agriculture has radically changed since the days of Honi.  We have become so far removed from the cycle of growing and harvesting that we are desensitized to the impact it is making on our environment.  Currently, nearly 20% of our national energy consumption comes from growing, transporting and storing our food.  The average meal travels 1500 miles from farm to fork!  The majority of food we receive through Yaroq comes from local farmers.  By supporting our local farmers and purchasing only organic produce, we are significantly cutting down on the greenhouse gasses produced by transportation, refrigeration and petroleum based fertilizers.  Most of the produce we receive is picked on a Wednesday and delivered to our Temple courtyard on Thursday!

Another goal for Yaroq is to build community.  We want to bring together a group of like minded people who share a concern for the environment and healthful eating.  We want to create relationships where people share ideas about nutrition, the environment and delicious recipes.  We do this in many ways.  Friendships are formed over fruits and veggies as host families sort and package the produce.  We learn from each other at Shabbat dinners where each family can share a favorite vegetarian recipe.  There will be at least one cooking class where new skills are acquired.  Hopefully we will also have the opportunity to visit one of the farms from which we receive produce.  And of course we have a Facebook group, where people can exchange information, recipes and ideas.

If you missed the opportunity to enroll in the first half of our season, please let us know you are interested in participating in the second half (starting in February).

A synagogue is not a grocery store.  But we are a source for sustainable living, sharing ideas, Jewish learning and forming community.  Please join us in Yaroq if you’re looking for even more than fresh and delicious produce.

Cyper-Repentance

As the High Holy Days approach I’m paying closer attention to the list of “al cheyts” I’ve amassed this year:  losing my temper over macaroni and cheese; interrupting constantly;  not returning movies in a timely fashion to Netflix; talking on the phone while driving; reading e-mails on conference calls; not calling friends often enough; feeling envy; acting selfish; not listening well enough…and the list goes on.  This month of Elul and the high holy days which follow are the way Judaism calendars personal and collective renewal.  It’s an opportunity for each of us to reflect on where we’ve been, who we are and where we’re going.

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Slowing Down for the Summer

by Rabbi Gayle Pomerantz. founding director

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This is my first Miami summer with a dog.  It’s hot when I walk him at 7:00 am, and it’s hot when I walk him at 7:00 pm.  It’s just hot.  But the heat isn’t all bad.  It forces me to slow down from my usual frenetic fast paced day of appointments, work, calls, carpools, e-mails, cooking and more, and pause, stretch and breathe.

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The Tent is Open

I read this in the New York Times Metropolitan Diary section last Monday (April 26th):

Dear Diary:
Emerging from the subway at 96th and Broadway, I heard the familiar sound of a man preaching from a Bible.  Some things never change.
But the Bible caught my eye — it was thinner than usual.  The man was preaching from a Kindle!  Some things will never be the same.—Ora Shtull

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Making Passover 2010 an EVENT

Rabbi Kook, the first Chief Rabbi of Israel, once said:  One should make the old new, and the new holy.  This is the task of anyone who is hosting or participating in a Passover Seder.  Our charge is to tell (haggadah) the story of our ancestors liberation as though we ourselves were once slaves.

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